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Do you ever wonder why toddlers do what they do? I know I do. I sometimes swear that toddlers are complete assholes, and you can tell them a million times not to do something, yet they still do. They even give you the smile of yup; I am not listening to you. There goes that material object you once loved that your toddler just ruined.
Why are toddler’s assholes sometimes?
There are lots of reasons why a toddler can act out and be what you may want to say an asshole but don’t. However, instead, we call it tantrums. I have listed the reasons below:
Reason #1: They can’t communicate their wants and needs as well as they’d like to. They are still young and learning. Due to children being unable to communicate unless crying or whimpering, they are often taught toddler sign language to help inform there wants and needs. It was highly effective in our house
Reason #2: They have no concept of time. I think you can understand that a 1 or 2-year-olds don’t grasp the idea of 1 or 2 minutes.
Reason #3: They have trouble controlling their emotions. They are still young and are trying to learn how to tell you how they are feeling. It is where the toddler sign language comes in handy too so they can express themselves.
Reason #4: They have trouble switching from one task to the next. They need to focus on one concept or task at a time as they are still learning these things. If you keep redirecting while they are working on one job, you often will suffer from a toddler meltdown.
Reason #5: They want to call all the shots and do as they please. They are looking for directions and boundaries. Don’t let your rules go and stay tough as this is only a phase that will pass, but this phase will return when they are a teen.
Reason #6: They get tired and hungry very quickly. Always have snack time! Kids are growing, and they need healthy foods to fuel their bodies and brains.
Story 1: I spent money on a beautiful lace and burlap table runner. At dinner, we sit down to have spaghetti dinner as a family. My not-yet 2-year-old (Luke) throws a tantrum because he didn’t want meatballs with his spaghetti and decides to throw his meatballs across the table, landing on your beautiful new burlap table runner (Purchased through Amazon). Now all I am thinking was that it was a waste of money like the tablecloths before. (Table cloths help kids learn to pull something closer to them by pulling on the tablecloth or if not caught in time a complete mess.)
Story 2: Friday nights are commonly pizza night in our house. It’s the one night that I do not make dinner, and we use paper plates. However, some nights the kids decide that pizza is the enemy. After spending $40 on the pizza, they much rather have crackers and raisins. They often will sit there and proceed to tell me how “gross” their pizza is even though they haven’t tried it yet. When I say it seemed fine last week, the plate goes flying across the table and onto the floor. Well, I guess they aren’t hungry.
I try again tomorrow, but this time pizza will be for lunch. I wrapped it up and put it in the fridge till it is time. They end up eating it Saturday for lunch with no plates flyering, no one saying that’s gross, and no tantrums. I have no idea what was wrong with it the night before, but the next day it was perfectly fine.
Story 3: We are leaving Wal-mart, and I am putting my sons in their car seats. My youngest son decides to scream, “Momma doesn’t touch my pee-pee.” I proceed to laugh and tell him that I’m just buckling him in for his safety. He continues to say it, and all I see is the people walking by giving me a very odd look.
Never a dull moment with kids, let alone boys. I have learned to laugh, however, I am surprised no one did anything. He even said it at dinner one night, so check it out below to hear it.
In the end, I love my boys even though we are going through a very trying stage.
I may often yell or scream at the moment because I feel like I can never keep my house clean anymore. However, I have learned after the fact to laugh as a lot of these situations, especially the ones involve material objects.
As long as everyone is safe and having a good time, that is all that matters. You will always have memories, but sometimes objects break, get lost, or even stolen.
I love my boys. Luke looks a lot like me and is just as stubborn as myself. I often ask, how do you fight with a mini-version of yourself?